👨‍👦When Family Chooses Selfishness: Lessons from Abraham and Lot

 Ever had a family member who always chooses the best for themselves, even at your cost?

That’s exactly what happened between Abraham and Lot.

Lot wasn’t just a travel companion; he was family. 

So Abram went, as the Lord had told him, and Lot went with him.  -- Genesis 12:4

Lot was Abraham’s nephew, the son of his brother Haran  -- Genesis 11:27. 

They journeyed together in obedience to God’s call, leaving behind their homeland to seek a promise.

But soon, blessings turned into burden.

Their livestock and wealth increased so much that their herdsmen began to quarrel as the land couldn’t sustain both families together. That’s when Abraham did something truly graceful.
He didn’t fight.
He didn’t demand his right as the elder.

Instead, he said to Lot:

"Is not the whole land before you? Separate yourself from me. If you take the left hand, then I will go to the right; or if you take the right hand, then I will go to the left." -- Genesis 13:9

Lot driven by self-interest chose the most desireable land for himself. The lush Jordan Valley which was fertile, green, and prosperous. He had no consideration for his uncle Abraham, who had generously given him the first choice and was simply drawn to the promise of easy wealth and abundant resources. He prioritized his own material success over the relationship and harmony of their kin.

“And Lot lifted up his eyes and saw that the Jordan valley was well watered everywhere like the garden of the Lord… So Lot chose for himself all the Jordan valley.” --Genesis 13:10-11

Lot chose what looked like the best and Abraham let him.

But we soon learn that what glitters isn’t always gold.

The land Lot chose included Sodom - a city infamous for its sin. The Bible says:

"Now the men of Sodom were wicked, great sinners against the Lord." -- Genesis 13:13

Eventually, God sent angels to destroy Sodom and Lot barely escaped with his life.

Meanwhile, Abraham, who trusted not in land but in God, stayed back in what seemed a dry and desert-like place. And yet, that’s where heaven met earth.

“And the Lord appeared to him by the oaks of Mamre, as he sat at the door of his tent in the heat of the day.” -- Genesis 18:1

Angels dined with Abraham. Promises were reaffirmed. And his household thrived. Not because of the land, but because God was with him.

The Takeaway?

We all have relatives like Lot who are quick to grab, selfish in decisions, looking out only for their gain.

But Abraham reminds us: You don’t lose when you trust the Lord.

God’s blessings aren’t limited by geography, economy, or what others take from you. What looks dry can become an oasis when God is in it. And what looks green can burn if He is not.

So, when you find yourself in a Lot-and-Abraham moment, remember:
Choose faith over sight.
Choose peace over possession.
Choose God over gain.

And you will never be left empty.